Noblegarden

Happy Noblegarden!

Now that I am in the end-game phase of WoW I finally have time to do holiday achievements!  Before when holidays came around I didn’t have time to celebrate in-game holidays because I was too busy trying to get to level 80!  Well now that I have time I am going all out for WoW holidays in hopes of completing What A Long, Strange Trip It's Been and getting the violet proto-drake!  In fact, my boyfriend and I have teamed up on our mains so that we can do all of the achievements together and travel in style at the end of the year!

So I should have been documenting the Long, Strange Trip all along, but most recently we took a break from raiding and gathering frost emblems to have a bit of fun in Dal. 

 

Yea, I’m doing this.

 

So those are our characters dressed up in their Noblegarden finery!  My character is the death knight wearing the Tuxedo Shirt/Pants and his character is the priest wearing the Elegant Dress. 

My character is so manly.  I love it.

BTW that’s poopadoo’s favorite spot in the game because it’s the spot where they celebrate Arthas’ defeat.  Boo.

Effortless perfection

Heh.  This is a good one.  I hate the way women are always competing with one another and showing off but I have to admit that even at times, I fall prey to this idea, which apparently is called “effortless perfection.”

I have stared in awe at my classmates who seem to effortlessly get straight A’s, participate in several activities, work, maintain deep friendships/relationships AND look amazing all of the time.  I’m not too shabby myself – I always did well in school, and in high school I did all of those things, but still felt like there was someone who did ten times more things and did them better.  In college I did the academic thing, though I didn’t reach the only goal I set out to accomplish by graduation.  It was a GPA thing and I missed it by .04 a.k.a. four-hundredths of a point.  Yea.  I was pissed too.  But that’s okay because I had the most academic regalia to wear at graduation.  I looked hot in my regalia.

Anyway, I just about gave up on the looking perfect thing mostly because I wasn’t out to impress anyone.  I didn’t join any groups other than honor societies because I couldn’t motivate myself to go to meetings.  Well, I did try joining one group but they were too radical for me, and I didn’t really get along with anyone in that group.  Besides, I couldn’t find any other groups that aligned with my interests.

Maybe I’m just a tough critic, but I am still in awe of those ladies who manage to look *perfect* all of the time – clothes, hair, makeup – because I still haven’t figured out how to do that yet!  That and my hair has always kind of done its own thing, so you can’t really tame the mane :)

Childfree

I have never changed a diaper.  I have only (briefly) held one or two babies in my life.  If someone handed me a baby, or if for some reason one of them came out of my body, I would have absolutely NO idea what to do with it.  As an intelligent adult, I understand safety concerns (safety first!), but I wouldn’t know what to DO with it as far as baths, food, naps, playtime, etc. go.

I’m okay with that.  But I am tired of people thinking that I’m the weird one or that I need to learn.

Unlike many classmates in elementary school, my mom never had any other kids.  No family friends were pregnant or had babies that were around me.  I didn’t have older sisters or friends that had babies or anything like that around me.  So I was never around babies or young kids and I never had a reason to learn how to interact with them.

I’m only 22 and I have no idea whether I’ll actually have want or have kids.  Growing up I decided that I never wanted to have kids, and everyone in my family has berated me for saying that.  My aunt tells me that my life will be sad and lonely without children.  My mom exclaims, “My friend Suzanne said she didn’t want any, and God blessed her with twins!”  These comments are null though.  I don’t think that you need children to be fulfilled.  I also believe in birth control and having a choice over whether and when you choose to have children. 

I do know for sure that I don’t want kids any time soon.  To be honest, being a parent when you’re not prepared and can’t afford a kid or just plain don’t want one sounds like the most awful thing ever.  And I’m not going to feel bad for saying that.  If I am going to have a kid I’d rather do it when I’m ready - when I have a career, a house, and when and if my husband and I have decided that we would like to start a family.

Now I know that sometimes things happen unexpectedly.  But that’s no excuse for not at least trying to prevent pregnancy if you’re not ready or capable or raising a child.

That said, I really like this article that I found.  It’s really unfair how some things are the “norm” whether or not they actually should be.  I don’t get why people are expected to have kids.  There are too many people having babies that really should not be.  Too many kids are abused, neglected, abandoned, or born into terrible poverty-laden lives.  So many don’t even get a chance, because things around them are so bad.  Plus, having a child before you are ready really tests the relationship between the mother and father, if there even is a relationship.  Many of these relationships and even marriages fail and it’s sad to think that they might not have if they had not become parents so soon.

I’d like to enjoy my life and do things for me and my boyfriend.  I’d like to continue to deepen my relationship with my him and do fun things.  Even if we were to get married, I’d want us to enjoy the first few years of marriage as husband and wife.  I don’t like to rush into things, and I don’t like being unprepared and I think that being a parent is a hardcore job.