Feminists? Really? Decreasing the quality of life for women from the so-called liberators

This is scary.  Go ahead, check out the link.  Now, the part about half of pregnancies being unintended is not scary - that's not even surprising, and I know there is a lot of research out there that supports this fact.  Scroll down to the comments and read a few.  THAT is what is scary, and I'm seeing this attitude everywhere.  So many of my peers are pregnant or have already had babies.  That FREAKS me out.  And you know that 80% of them did not plan to get pregnant.  A couple of them did it on purpose for their own selfish and retarded reasons, but the rest of it I think just comes down to bad planning and failing to think ahead.

The above link takes you to a post on Feministing.  Feministing touts itself as being a place where all feminists - cisgendered, transgendered, female or not - can get together and discuss issues that affect the female gender.  In reality, it is just a biased "community" that is scared of outside criticism.  Some of the rationales that authors use to back up their assertions in posts, comments, and in their own private blogs is so FLAWED and ridiculous that it is impossible to take this group seriously. 

I used to check Feministing every day, because I thought it was great that they "broke" news stories (read: reposted and commented) that you don't hear about in the mainstream media.  Then I was deeply outraged by one of their posts and pretty much lost interest in following this community.  The article itself "Allies Asking Questions" was backwards enough, but the long stream of commentary that followed it really set me off.  The commenters tore apart the 1 or 2 people that dared to disagree or point out flaws, and banded with one another to re-inforce the flawed and repressive logic that sets back social process by several decades.  Reading this post really gets me inflmaed...so much so that I will not re-read and comment on it now - that requires its own post!

I find that feminist communities are not open, safe spaces to engage in constructive and meaningful dialogue or critique anything.  Rather, the feminists are, for lack of a better term, control freaks, that absolutely shut down anyone that disagrees with every one of their radical ideas.  I really hate to generalize, but in my experience, this is true.  I am a young, educated woman.  I believe in gender equality, equal pay, sex education, preserving the "right to choose" and taking responsibility for yourself as a woman...but I do not want to be associated with the word 'feminist' because it automatically earns disrespect.  It once stood for something good but today's feminists have ruined it.

I feel uncomfortable in feminist spaces, whether it is in an activist group on a college campus, a feminist news blog, or an online community where one-sided debate flourishes and all who challenge even the tiniest notion is immediately attacked for the pettiest things including typos.  Often, constructive criticism is banned outright, as these commenters receive warnings by moderators or have their comments deleted entirely.

I'm going off now to read this post.  I expect it to be less infuriating than "Allies Asking Questions," but equally as farfetched.